Ep 7. Living with Cancer

This is the heart-breaking story of Naadia’s journey of living with terminal cancer; her fears, her heartbreak, not only battling with her health but also her faith. She shares how Keto gave her a new lease of life, how she remains positive in the face of darkness, and how she is cementing her legacy today.

 

Warning: This topic is triggering. 

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Naadia Vazeer is a 49-year-old single mum of four kids aged between 15 to 21.  In March, 2016,

Naadia was diagnosed with stage two breast cancer on her left breast. A year later, the cancer had spread to the rest of the body. Unfortunately, the cancer is now terminal and there’s no cure. In Naadia’s own words. she’s just ‘buying time’.

 

Nadia has been an advocate for breast cancer awareness since diagnosis. In 2017, a few days after a hospital stay and stage 4 diagnoses, Naadia was awarded a unique award called ‘The Women of Wonder Awards’ for her outreach into the community and raising awareness for breast cancer. She’s been interviewed by all genres of media, local to her where she’s based in South Africa, as well as internationally. You can read about her achievements here & here:

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Naadia created her own hashtag,  which went viral in South Africa:  #fightlikeagirl

She also has a Facebook breast cancer awareness page and she founded a private breast cancer support group, where she helps women and their loved ones through their emotional, mental, and physical aspects of the journey.

Inspired by the Keto lifestyle, Naadia and her daughter Nabila founded a Keto food business, please do check it out and support them! https://www.facebook.com/nntheketochicks/ 

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Ep 6. Part 2: Was my husband gay? (with Aleenah)

This episode is the final part of two episodes that explores an asexual marriage.  We hear a brutally honest account of Aleena’s short-lived marriage.

Listen to episode 5 for part 1.

 

WARNING: this is an explicit episode with adult themes and language. Please put your earphones on and listen to this in private.

 

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The intention behind this candid conversation is to bring to light the serious issues that can happen in a marriage, that nobody openly talks about. We hear a brutally honest account of Aleena’s short-lived marriage.

This episode is the second of two episodes that explores an asexual marriage.

WARNING: this is an explicit episode with adult themes and language. Please put your earphones on and listen to this in private.

Tasneem:

For the sake of anonymity and to avoid unintended slander, no real names or locations have been mentioned. Our guest Aleenah’s name is also an alias. Please note, we’ve kept this conversation as authentic as possible.

 

Any comments directed at Aleena’s husband is not in reference to his sexuality; rather we are commenting on his behaviour as a husband.

 

This is not a discussion about the rights and wrongs of same sex attraction in Islam – rather it is focussed on the manipulative behaviour of someone we believe who has not come out of the closet, who wilfully misled his wife into marrying him only to then bodyshame her and make her feel inadequate, rather than owning his sexuality and being honest.

Nafisa:

Tasneem, you were a witness to the trial she had. Aleena is a childhood friend of yours and you were there for her from the beginning, albeit, even

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Ep 5. Part 1: Was my husband gay? (with Aleenah)

This episode is the first of two episodes that explores an asexual marriage. We hear sister Aleenah’s story, who recently got divorced as her husband refused to sleep with her. It led her to believe he was, in fact, gay. Aleenah’s story highlights the importance of how far we should actually compromise when we’re under pressure to marry.

 

WARNING: this is an explicit episode with adult themes and language. Please put your earphones on and listen to this in private.

 

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The intention behind this candid conversation is to bring to light the serious issues that can happen in a marriage, that nobody openly talks about. The question to ask ourselves is, to what degree should our sisters compromise when getting married as well as during the marriage, and when do warning signs become too serious to ignore?

This episode is the first of two episodes that explores an asexual marriage.

WARNING: this is an explicit episode with adult themes and language. Please put your earphones on and listen to this in private.

Tasneem:

For the sake of anonymity and to avoid unintended slander, no real names or locations have been mentioned. Our guest Aleenah’s name is also an alias. Please note, we’ve kept this conversation as authentic as possible.

Aleena shares her heart-breaking story of how she got married in good faith only to be let down by her ex-husband, sexually and otherwise.

Nafisa:

It just goes to show, we really should do our due diligence as far as we can.

 

I know it’s not always possible, but at the very least, try not to ignore any signs that may be worrying. When you’re looking

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Ep 4.1. The masjid (mosque) and single mothers of boys – Bonus Track with Celina Hanif

Tune in to this bonus track to hear what Celina has to say about how some mosques (masjids) treat single mothers of boys and what impact this has on keeping children connected to their faith. For the full episode, listen to episode 4 where Celina shares her story about why she left Islam and how she found her way back again. 

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“Even if we, as mothers instilled a love for the mosque and our children, we can’t maintain that love beyond age seven. How as a community, can we then expect these same boys when they turn 17 or 18, that they should be in the masjid (mosque). I have not been able to take my children to the masjid as a single mother, since my eldest turned seven.”

Celina Hanif

This bonus tracks gives an extra point that Celina made about how the Muslim community can help foster the faith from an early age. 

Tasneem:

Celina, we’ve talked a lot about how a lack of acceptance from the Muslim community can push those already, struggling with their imaan (faith) even further away. We’ve also spoken about how a positive portrayal of our faith from an early age is integral to fostering a sense of love for Islam. And about how your relationship with the masjid helped bring you back to the deen (religion, i.e. Islam).

On that note, I wanted to ask you what can the masjid (mosque) do better to keep us and our children connected with our faith?

Celina:

The exclusion of boys being raised by single mothers, which happens a lot. Many mosques now have a policy of not allowing boys into the women’s section from as young as age seven, irrespective of whether or not they’ve reached puberty.

Now in the time of the prophet (SAW – peace be upon him), that wouldn’t be an issue because the way mosques were set up, they allowed children to be in the back rows of the men and the mothers could then join the front row from

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Ep 4. Losing faith – Why I left Islam

With guest Celina Hanif who shares her tumultuous journey of how and why she lost the love for Islam. We discuss what the Muslim community can do to support those having a crisis of faith, especially young people and how we as individual Muslims all have a role to play.

 

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In this new episode, we talk to Celina Hanif about what caused her to leave Islam and how she found her way back again. We discuss what the Muslim community can do to support those having a crisis of faith, especially young people and how we as individual Muslims all have a role to play. Celina Hanif is a Master practitioner of Neuro Linguistic Programming and hypnosis. She is also a divorce coach who helps South Asians recreate, rebuild and restore their lives post-divorce. She is also a full-time mum and home educator to her four boys.

  • Salaams and welcome! Today’s episode is about when somebody leaves Islam, how they can find their way back.
  • Islam is the fastest growing religion in the UK – but while we all know how many Muslims there are in Britain – around 3 million to be precise – what people are rarely aware of, is the number of Muslims who actually leave Islam.
  • Today we will be talking to Celina Hanif about why she left Islam and then how she found herself back again. We’ll be touching upon what is it in our community that doesn’t seem to be supporting young people when they have a crisis of faith and what we should be doing more of. 
  • Celina Hanif is a Master practitioner of Neuro Linguistic Programming and hypnosis.
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Ep 3. Lessons from lockdown

Join Nafisa & Tasneem after hours where we reflect on the main lessons we’ve learnt living through this pandemic, and how our experiences have shaped our lives today.

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 “My husband and I fought a lot less during lockdown, and it wasn’t because we were super patient or because lockdown brought us closer together … it’s because we both knew that if we fought, we had nowhere to go! We were stuck with each other; we couldn’t run or hide!”  Tasneem

With a second lockdown on the cards, this week we’re reflecting on the last lockdown and the challenges we faced as well as the lessons we’ve learnt. Share your lessons from lockdown in the comment section below. Nafisa also writes a blog piece for this episode, read on below!

Tasneem

1 – One family lesson

  • Enjoy time with family more – spend time with not just kids, but elders.
  • Lost my nani (grandma) during lockdown, I’ve so many regrets.
  • We need to live in a way we don’t regret that we didn’t do enough for our loved ones.
  • Family is beautiful. Make more effort with family and friends.
  • There is beauty in simplicity. Once things are stripped back, and the noise is cut out, you can appreciate each other more.
  • Children need us more than we realise – this time with them was precious, will never get it back.
  • We are more resourceful than we think and kids are more resilient than we give them credit for. The way we live in lockdown, we should live like it more. Life simplified. Food, easy cooking…spending more quality time.

2- One personal/self lesson

  • I realised I need people more than I thought I did – creatively for my writing and mentally/emotionally for myself.
  • I’ll never be one of those writers who can live alone in a cave and write a masterpiece. I need to be out there in the world, meeting people, experiencing things, to draw inspiration from.
  • I realised I’m an extrovert, not an introvert (shock, horror, I know! 😊)

3 – One lighthearted lesson

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Ep 2.1 Pre-marriage encounters (bonus track)

As a little thank you for all your support, here’s a little bonus track following our last episode revealing how we met our other halves! Tune in to hear brief stories of pre-marital encounters that will leave you gasping! 🤣

Watch the full episode on track 2: How we met our other halves.

Nafisa and Tasneem x

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Ep 2. How we met our other halves

Join Nafisa & Tasneem for a chat after hours … where we discuss the Netflix show ‘Indian Matchmaking,’ issues within our own culture when it comes to arranged marriages, as well as reveal how we met our other halves!

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Ep 1. The Pilot: You & Me

This is where you meet us, your hosts Nafisa & Tasneem, for the first time. You will hear about why we started this beautiful podcast journey and the kind of topics we hope to cover. Get ready for some giggling!

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Getting to know us and why we started the podcast journey…

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