14. Polygamy Part 1: I’m a second wife – not a home wrecker (with Layla)

Villain or heroine, friend or foe? We’ll let you decide as we speak to second-wife Layla who shares her story of how she became caught up in a love triangle.

 

From dealing with sharing her husband to revealing what goes on behind closed doors, we ask Layla all the difficult questions about her life with the ‘man who has it all’ … or does he? Tune in and let us know your thoughts!

 

This is the first part of two episodes covering stories of polygamy in Islam, hearing directly from the wives in question. Listener discretion is advised.

 

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Tasneem:

Salaams and welcome to a much-anticipated episode of Not Another Mum Pod! Today we’re going to be talking about one of the most controversial and contentious topics in Islam – polygamy. Please be aware that this episode may be triggering. 

So Nafisa. How long

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Ep 13. How I survived mental health (with Harmeet)

“There isn’t a lot of language around how to describe mental health within our community.  The first thing that I used to think about is I’m going to get labeled as someone who’s just mad and crazy because that’s how people start to see you. They start to think that there’s something very wrong with you. They might not want to talk to you because they think that  you’re not normal.

I think  that’s very sad. The more that we do share, the less shame. And the less insecurities we have about sharing our stories, the more it will become a normal part of a conversation as we do with other things, so  it’s really taking back that control.” 

 

Mental Health is a topic that is still massively misunderstood in our community. This episode is the first of a series that will be looking at the challenges women face that impact their mental health, and how we can acknowledge, heal and protect it.

 

In today’s show, sister Harmeet Bharya speaks candidly about her mental health and the impact it has had on her life and health from losing her baby to feeling suicidal. Join our conversation to find out how Harmeet faced some incredibly dark moments in her life and how she came through it stronger, empowered with a positive attitude and outlook.

 

Trigger warning: viewer discretion advised – themes of baby loss, postnatal depression and suicidal thoughts

 

Note: This podcast is supporting the Better Health – Every Mind Matters campaign. Every Mind Matters is a digital resource to empower people to look after their mental health and support others. At its heart is a ‘Mind Plan’, a free, NHS digital tool that enables people to create their own action plan to help them take simple, practical steps to look after their mental health. 

 

Article: https://muslimmamas.com/mental-health-an-epidemic-since-the-pandemic-by-muslim-mamas/ 

 

WARNING:  By listening to this podcast, you agree not to use this podcast as a medical or mental health advice to treat yourself or others; please consult your own physician for any diagnosis.

Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on these podcasts are those of the speakers and do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of Not Another Mum Pod’s management or of any sponsors. Any content provided by our contributors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, ethnic group, identity (gender or sexual) club,

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Ep 12. Child Bride: A Story of Survival & Self-Discovery (With Samra Zafar)

“People have this idea that child marriage is like a child being taken, kicking and screaming into a room and being chained or roped up or tied up, and then forced to sign somewhere. Force is not a gun to your head or a knife to your throat.

Force is coercion. Force is pressure. Force is that invisible, intangible cycle that is created around you, that if you say no, you’re damned, and if you say yes, you’re damned.” 

 

How many of us know or have heard about someone who has suffered from domestic abuse? How many of us know or have heard of someone who has been pressured or coerced into a marriage? This episode delves right into a harrowing story of how Samra Zafar was pressured into a marriage at a young age only to be stifled into an existence of abuse from her parents to husband and mother-in-law. From emotional abuse to spiritual, from verbal to physical, from sexual to financial abuse – there was no stone unturned.

 

Samra rose from the ashes by finding the courage to learn what was happening to her. Armed with knowledge, she began to plan her escape. Samra Zafar is now an award-winning international speaker, author, scholar, and entrepreneur who advocates for equity, inclusion, and human rights.

 

This podcast is campaigning against domestic abuse with: gov.uk/domestic-abuse, supporting the ‘Ask for ANI’ scheme, which allows those at risk or suffering from abuse to discreetly signal that they need help and access support. 

 

WARNING: this is an explicit episode with adult themes and language. Please put your earphones on and listen to this in private. By listening to this podcast, you agree not to use this podcast as a medical or mental health advice to treat yourself or others, please consult your own physician for any diagnosis.

Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on these podcasts are those of the speakers and do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of Not Another Mum Pod’s management or of any sponsors. Any content provided by our contributors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, ethnic group, identity (gender or sexual) club, organization, company, individual or anyone or anything.

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Ep 11.1 Bonus Track: The Story of Palestine with Eman Askar (@emmasworld.101)

Instagram sea shanty on the ‘Story of Palestine’ was viewed 10 MILLION times in 48 HOURS! In honour of Palestine, especially for our audience, from the singer/songwriter herself, Tiktoker Eman Askar, an Egyptian mother of two, who became an overnight sensation when she sang an adaptation of “The Wellerman” sea shanty, shares her own story for you. 

 

Her song went viral after she replaced the lyrics to explain the history of Palestine and how the illegitimate Israeli occupation came about, resulting in 10 million views!. She has a special message for our listeners and talks about her story of how this song came about from a picture from her childhood.

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Eman Askar @emmasworld.101, Egyptian mother of two, singer, songwriter, copywriter, video creator. 

Discussion points: 

Nafisa: Salaams and welcome to Not Another Mum Pod.

In honour of Palestine, especially for our audience from the singer songwriter herself Eman Askar, an Egyptian mother of two, who became an overnight sensation.

 

Eman went viral and was covered by various news outlets. Listeners do follow her on Insta and tech talk. Username is emmasworld.101

 

Eman Askar: Hello, everyone, assalamualaikum! My name is Eman Askar, and I just wanted to introduce myself to Not Another Mum Pod and Muslim Mama’s listeners.

 

Eman continues to share her story about how she thought of this song, going back to her childhood, the thought process and aftermath of when she released the song. Tune in to listen to her unique story – truly an honour that Eman has taken the time to do this for NAMPOD and MM listeners. Thank you Eman!

Lyrics:

 

There once was a land called Palestine

Where Christians, Muslims and Jews lived fine

In the 1800s

It was ruled by The Ottoman Empire

Meanwhile, a bearded guy

Founded Zionism for Jews to aspire

A land that becomes their home, and safe

Only for their kind

Then there was World War I

That ended when the Allies won

And

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Ep 11. LIVE from the Gaza Strip: the untold story behind the horror (with Nisreen Al-Khatib from Quds News Network)

Today’s episode is hard-hitting and at times emotional, but really, really important. As the world dissects what’s happening in Palestine, we’re putting aside the politics for now, and focussing on the humans of Palestine: the souls behind the statistics, the reality on the ground, what it’s really like to live and grow up in the Gaza Strip, and what life is like under occupation and under siege.
 
In this episode we talk to Nisreen Al-Khatib, a married, 27 year old mother to a one year old baby boy, living in the Gaza Strip since she was 5 years-old. She is the Co-Founder of Quds News Network and tells her story from the heart.
 

WARNING: This episode has themes of war, violence and terror. 

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 Due to the recent attacks in Palestine, we decided to change our schedule to include this special episode.
 
This was probably one of the most important conversations we have ever had. It was a privilege and an honour, and to be honest, sometimes a little bit scary. We just didn’t know if our guest would live long enough to have this conversation. We recorded this on the day of the ceasefire after Eid.
 
Have a listen, and do leave a comment. Nisreen will be reading and responding. Share this episode and let’s get this story out there.
 

Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on these podcasts are those of the speakers and do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of Not Another Mum Pod’s management or of any sponsors. Any content provided by our contributors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, ethnic group, identity (gender or sexual) club, organization, company, individual or anyone or anything.

Introduction

Nafisa: We’ve decided not to release our planned episode due to the recent horrendous attacks on our fellow brothers and sisters in Palestine. Today, we will be focussing on the human stories of Palestine, the face behind the souls, the reality on the ground with a view to mobilise our communities to support Palestine

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Ep 10. Halal ‘dating’ in the pandemic (with Merium Bhuiyan)

Finding The One is hard enough – but throw a pandemic into the mix and it’s almost impossible… or is it? Join us in this candid conversation about halal dating in the COVID-19 era with Merium Bhuiyan, CEO and Founder of CakeFace Makeup. Find out what it’s truly like to ‘halal date’ in the midst of a global pandemic; how prospective husbands slide into her DMs, and what happens when a right swipe doesn’t quite go according to plan.

 

WARNING: this is an explicit episode with adult themes and language. Please put your earphones on and listen to this in private. 

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Merium Bhuiyan is the founder and CEO of CakeFace Makeup, a makeup services company that champions confidence building through workshops and events sharing expertise. http://cakeface-makeup.com/

 

Merium holds a Masters in Education and is interested in inclusion and social mobility. She advises on several boards and committees in the community and utilises her roles as Vice Chair of her local faiths forum and Trustee of her local community centre to speak publicly on a variety of issues, including hate crime and youth violence. In her spare time Merium is involved with her local theatre and contributes to a variety of creative arts projects. Merium’s skills include consulting, leading and directing on a variety of enterprises including festivals, charities and youth projects, and aims to complete a PhD and advise on education at governmental level in the future.

 

Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on these podcasts are those of the speakers and do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of Not Another Mum Pod’s management or of any sponsors. Any content provided by our contributors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, ethnic group, identity (gender or sexual) club, organization, company, individual or anyone or anything.

Introduction

What do we mean by ‘halal’ dating? How do you keep it ‘halal’ when meeting strangers and then getting to know them? What makes people turn to alternative ways to find the one?

Tasneem:  Salaams and welcome

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Ep 9. Part 2: The ultimate betrayal: abused by a spiritual figure (with Uzma & Ramzia)

This episode is the SECOND part of two episodes that uncovers Uzma’s story of how she was abused by a renowned spiritual leader. With the help of a trained counsellor Ramzia Akbari, specialising in sexual abuse and cults, we discover how the trauma of what happened to Uzma in childhood, reared its ugly head in adulthood at a time when she should have been the happiest. Ramzia offers valuable advice about grooming and influence as well as techniques on how to recognise and combat these forms of abuse. Ramzia is a senior counsellor qualified in Therapeutic counselling and works with a faith and culturally sensitive, Islamic counselling model. This topic is triggering.

 

WARNING: this is an explicit episode with adult themes and language. Please put your earphones on and listen to this in private. By listening to this podcast, you agree not to use this podcast as a medical or mental health advice to treat yourself or others, please consult your own physician for any diagnosis.

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Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on these podcasts are those of the speakers and do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of Not Another Mum Pod’s management or of any sponsors. Any content provided by our contributors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, ethnic group, identity (gender or sexual) club, organization, company, individual or anyone or anything.

 

The intention behind this candid conversation is to bring to light the serious issues that nobody openly talks about. The question to ask ourselves is what exactly is sexual and spiritual abuse?

 

For the sake of anonymity and to avoid unintended slander, no names or locations have been mentioned. Our guest’s name is also an alias. Please note, we’ve kept this conversation as authentic as possible.

 

There’ve been a lot of cases where members of our community have been affected by abuse, we will cover various aspects of this with expert commentators over several episodes.

 

Unfortunately, Tasneem will not be able to join us for this session. Instead, we

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Ep 8. Part 1: The ultimate betrayal: abused by a spiritual figure (with Uzma & Ramzia)

This episode is the first of two episodes that uncovers Uzma’s story of how she was abused by a renowned spiritual leader. With the help of a trained counsellor Ramzia Akbari, specialising in sexual abuse and cults, we’ll explore how we can protect our loved ones from this happening to them, and experience a live ‘counselling’ session where we unpack the trauma that happened to Uzma. Ramzia is a senior counsellor qualified in Therapeutic counselling and works with a faith and culturally sensitive, Islamic counselling model. This topic is triggering.

 

WARNING: this is an explicit episode with adult themes and language. Please put your earphones on and listen to this in private. By listening to this podcast, you agree not to use this podcast as a medical or mental health advice to treat yourself or others, please consult your own physician for any diagnosis.

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Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on these podcasts are those of the speakers and do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of Not Another Mum Pod’s management or of any sponsors. Any content provided by our contributors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, ethnic group, identity (gender or sexual) club, organization, company, individual or anyone or anything.

 

The intention behind this candid conversation is to bring to light the serious issues that nobody openly talks about. The question to ask ourselves is what exactly is sexual and spiritual abuse?

 

For the sake of anonymity and to avoid unintended slander, no names or locations have been mentioned. Our guest’s name is also an alias. Please note, we’ve kept this conversation as authentic as possible.

 

There’ve been a lot of cases where members of our community have been affected by abuse, we will cover various aspects of this with expert commentators over several episodes.

 

Unfortunately, Tasneem will not be able to join us for this session. Instead, we will have an expert guest Ramzia Akbari, and an anonymous sister ‘Uzma’ who shares her harrowing story.

 

Ramzia Akbari is a senior

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Ep 7. Living with Cancer

This is the heart-breaking story of Naadia’s journey of living with terminal cancer; her fears, her heartbreak, not only battling with her health but also her faith. She shares how Keto gave her a new lease of life, how she remains positive in the face of darkness, and how she is cementing her legacy today.

 

Warning: This topic is triggering. 

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By listening to this podcast, you agree not to use this podcast as medical advice to treat any medical condition in either yourself or others, including, but not limited to patients that you’re treating. Consult your own physician for any medical issues that you may be having.

Any views or opinions expressed in this podcast is our own and not representative of anybody’s or organisation. 

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Naadia Vazeer is a 49-year-old single mum of four kids aged between 15 to 21.  In March, 2016,

Naadia was diagnosed with stage two breast cancer on her left breast. A year later, the cancer had spread to the rest of the body. Unfortunately, the cancer is now terminal and there’s no cure. In Naadia’s own words. she’s just ‘buying time’.

 

Nadia has been an advocate for breast cancer awareness since diagnosis. In 2017, a few days after a hospital stay and stage 4 diagnoses, Naadia was awarded a unique award called ‘The Women of Wonder Awards’ for her outreach into the community and raising awareness for breast cancer. She’s been interviewed by all genres of media, local to her where she’s based in South Africa, as well as internationally. You can read about her achievements here & here:

#fightlikeagirl

Naadia created her own hashtag,  which went viral in South Africa:  #fightlikeagirl

She also has a Facebook breast cancer awareness page and she founded a private breast cancer support group, where she helps women and their loved ones through their emotional, mental, and physical aspects of the journey.

Inspired by the Keto lifestyle, Naadia and her daughter Nabila founded a Keto food business, please do check it out and support them! https://www.facebook.com/nntheketochicks/ 

It is

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