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15. The untold story of the first wife (with Sarah)

TRIGGER WARNING: Accounts of torture, violence and black magic

When revert sister Sarah realises her husband is interested in taking a second wife, she tries to be a supportive partner. But not all that glitters is always gold, and as the secrets and deceit begin to pile up, it’s Sarah and her children who end up paying the price.

Join us on a harrowing journey through Europe and North Africa as Sarah fights for survival and tries to break free from a situation that has spiralled out of control.

This is the second part of two episodes covering stories of polygamy in Islam, hearing directly from the wives in question. Note, the first half of the story is related to Sarah’s polygamous experience. The latter half is other themes described in the trigger warning. Listener discretion is advised.

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Nafisa:

Salaams and welcome to another episode of Not Another Mum Pod! So today we continue the theme of polygamy, a super hot topic in our community so will try to be as sensitive as we can. This particular episode is pretty triggering so do be mindful.

Tasneem:

Naf, last week we spoke to Layla who was the second wife in a marriage and she spoke at length about how she made it work – albeit not without controversy. Without giving anything away or any spoilers, what did you think of Layla’s story?

Nafisa:

I have to say, if I’m honest and especially once I’ve had some time to digest, I think there are a lot of unspoken challenges and they haven’t been addressed

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March 20, 2022

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14. Polygamy Part 1: I’m a second wife – not a home wrecker (with Layla)

Villain or heroine, friend or foe? We’ll let you decide as we speak to second-wife Layla who shares her story of how she became caught up in a love triangle.

From dealing with sharing her husband to revealing what goes on behind closed doors, we ask Layla all the difficult questions about her life with the ‘man who has it all’ … or does he? Tune in and let us know your thoughts!

This is the first part of two episodes covering stories of polygamy in Islam, hearing directly from the wives in question. Listener discretion is advised.

Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on these podcasts are those of the speakers and do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of Not Another Mum Pod’s management or of any sponsors. Any content provided by our contributors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, ethnic group, identity (gender or sexual) club, organization, company, individual or anyone or anything.

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Intro

Tasneem:

Salaams and welcome to a much-anticipated episode of Not Another Mum Pod! Today we’re going to be talking about one of the most controversial and contentious topics in Islam – polygamy. Please be aware that this episode may be triggering.

So Nafisa. How long

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January 11, 2022

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Ep 13. How I survived mental health (with Harmeet)

“There isn’t a lot of language around how to describe mental health within our community. The first thing that I used to think about is I’m going to get labeled as someone who’s just mad and crazy because that’s how people start to see you. They start to think that there’s something very wrong with you. They might not want to talk to you because they think that you’re not normal.

I think that’s very sad. The more that we do share, the less shame. And the less insecurities we have about sharing our stories, the more it will become a normal part of a conversation as we do with other things, so it’s really taking back that control.”

Mental Health is a topic that is still massively misunderstood in our community. This episode is the first of a series that will be looking at the challenges women face that impact their mental health, and how we can acknowledge, heal and protect it.

In today’s show, sister Harmeet Bharya speaks candidly about her mental health and the impact it has had on her life and health from losing her baby to feeling suicidal. Join our conversation to find out how Harmeet faced some incredibly dark moments in her life and how she came through it stronger, empowered with a positive attitude and outlook.

Trigger warning: viewer discretion advised – themes of baby loss, postnatal depression and suicidal thoughts

Note: This podcast is supporting the Better Health – Every Mind Matters campaign. Every Mind Matters is a digital resource to empower people to look after their mental health and support others. At its heart is a ‘Mind Plan’, a free, NHS digital tool that enables people to create their own action plan to help them take simple, practical steps to look after their mental health.

Article: https://muslimmamas.com/mental-health-an-epidemic-since-the-pandemic-by-muslim-mamas/

WARNING: By listening to this podcast, you agree not to use this podcast as a medical or mental health advice to treat yourself or others; please consult your own physician for any diagnosis.

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December 3, 2021

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Ep 12. Child Bride: A Story of Survival & Self-Discovery (With Samra Zafar)

“People have this idea that child marriage is like a child being taken, kicking and screaming into a room and being chained or roped up or tied up, and then forced to sign somewhere. Force is not a gun to your head or a knife to your throat.

Force is coercion. Force is pressure. Force is that invisible, intangible cycle that is created around you, that if you say no, you’re damned, and if you say yes, you’re damned.”

How many of us know or have heard about someone who has suffered from domestic abuse? How many of us know or have heard of someone who has been pressured or coerced into a marriage? This episode delves right into a harrowing story of how Samra Zafar was pressured into a marriage at a young age only to be stifled into an existence of abuse from her parents to husband and mother-in-law. From emotional abuse to spiritual, from verbal to physical, from sexual to financial abuse – there was no stone unturned.

Samra rose from the ashes by finding the courage to learn what was happening to her. Armed with knowledge, she began to plan her escape. Samra Zafar is now an award-winning international speaker, author, scholar, and entrepreneur who advocates for equity, inclusion, and human rights.

This podcast is campaigning against domestic abuse with: gov.uk/domestic-abuse, supporting the ‘Ask for ANI’ scheme, which allows those at risk or suffering from abuse to discreetly signal that they need help and access support.

WARNING: this is an explicit episode with adult themes and language. Please put your earphones on and listen to this in private. By listening to this podcast, you agree not to use this podcast as a medical or mental health advice to treat yourself or others, please consult your own physician for any diagnosis.

Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on these podcasts are those of the speakers and do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of Not Another Mum Pod’s management or of any sponsors. Any content provided by our contributors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, ethnic group, identity (gender or sexual) club, organization, company, individual or anyone or anything.

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August 1, 2021